bcachefs: Buffered write path now can avoid the inode lock

bcachefs: Buffered write path now can avoid the inode lock

Non append, non extending buffered writes can now avoid taking the inode
lock.

To ensure atomicity of writes w.r.t. other writes, we lock every folio
that we'll be writing to, and if this fails we fall back to taking the
inode lock.

Extensive comments are provided as to corner cases.

Link: https://lore.kernel.org/linux-fsdevel/Zdkxfspq3urnrM6I@bombadil.infradead.org/
Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@linux.dev>