bcachefs: Fix lock thrashing in __bchfs_fallocate()

bcachefs: Fix lock thrashing in __bchfs_fallocate()

We've observed significant lock thrashing on fstests generic/083 in
fallocate, due to dropping and retaking btree locks when checking the
pagecache for data.

This adds a nonblocking mode to bch2_clamp_data_hole(), where we only
use folio_trylock(), and can thus be used safely while btree locks are
held - thus we only have to drop btree locks as a fallback, on actual
lock contention.

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@linux.dev>